Turning 37

Energy Is A Precious Currency.

I turned 37 yesterday.

Another year around the sun, and honestly, this one feels like an accomplishment. I considered writing a fresh insta intro, but in truth, if you’re there and want to know me, you likely already do.

So instead, here's a social media truth of mine. Not because it’s important or new, but because I value transparency. And maybe someone reading this needs to hear it today. If not, no harm done; most folks will have scrolled past already.

If it resonates, fab. If it doesn't, that's entirely okay too. Either way, thank you for being here and connecting with me.

If you’d like to read the rest, it’s below this selection of bday pics.

What we see here (on social media) is not entirely real, although it’s not fake, either.

Forgive the paradox. Reality is full of contradictions, and I’ve found that learning to hold them is its own kind of catharsis. Maybe even the closest we come to "truth".

Everything we post is curated, even vulnerable moments of grief, pain, and candid shares are filtered through lenses of reflection and choice. In some ways, we have more control here than we do in life offline. The version of ourselves we present is perhaps a little more refined, as many of us are private people despite our public profiles and presence.

Online spaces offer a kind of access that never existed just a few decades ago. It's a lot for anyone. Many of us are simply trying to manage our presence here in ways that serve our well-being. That doesn’t make it false, just not the whole picture.

No post captures a complete self. Ask yourself this: how many people every part of you? Who has the intimacy and availability of presence to witness your life in full? Likely, only you.

Before this is misunderstood as social media hatred, I want to express my gratitude for the connections this space has allowed me. As a disabled person, online access has offered a kind of community I might not otherwise have. Some of my dearest friendships began here. I've found meaningful support, thoughtful creators, and small businesses I genuinely cherish. That can be a lifeline. But even with that truth, maybe especially with that truth, it's important to honour the need for boundaries and balance. Gratitude and discernment can coexist.

So here’s my gentle, unsolicited advice, offered with love, and absolutely no pressure to take it:

Approach social media softly. Be mindful of how you take it in, and how it takes from you. Your energy is sacred.

And more and more, I believe it’s being stolen, not by a specific app or platform, but by the sheer endlessness of online access. The pressure to always be on, always be producing, always be present and never miss out.

It’s not accessible.

As a creator, I often hear community accessibility praised, but my experience is it still lacks. For those of us who can’t keep up with the pace, who can’t match the volume or visibility, we become invisible. Outpaced by novelty. Replaced by higher output.

I’m not here to speak for everyone. Only for myself. And this is what I experience.

In life, when I see people I love lost in the scroll, when I see phones outnumber faces in a crowd, or restaurants full of eyes on screens instead of one another, it breaks something in me.

We are already holding so much grief. So many injustices. So much loss.

There is much to mourn and still much to fight for. So why also forfeit what’s right in front of us when it is? The tangible moments. The nourishment. The relationships and rituals that could be a source of healing if we’re present enough to notice.

Besides, comparison has never built a strong community, and competition doesn’t help us feel connected.

So take what you see here gently. Take breaks. Don’t force yourself to keep up because you were told it’s the only way. Yes, stepping back might hurt business, but it won’t hurt your heart.

This past year, my health took another dive, and I’ve had to reckon with that truth more honestly than ever before. I don’t have the same capacity. I can’t keep up. But I can stay in integrity with myself. And if you’re in a similar place, whether you’re creating, consuming, or simply existing, I hope you know you’re not alone.

Be mindful of how you spend your energy. It’s one of the most precious things you have.